is this more about you wanting a bi experience.... or is this more for his interests.. are you only having a 3-some..... or will there be time alone for you and her.... and She and him...

be sure you and she spend time alone together.... talking..... that way it allows you to understand her intent, as well as help you to work out any jealousy or insecure feeling you might encounter....

ask the poignant questions, like what are HER expectations in this.... and identify your own as well..... it's really best if you can enter this without expectations... but as with life there are bound to be some expectations....

there will be some situations that you just can't plan for.... so.. think about different scenarios that are not necessarily planned..... how will you handle spontaneity,

I hope this all works out well for you.... it's very difficult to find everyones rhythm but once you do it's an amazing thing.....

Bare

Threesomes involving your husband & another woman in your bed should be approached with great caution -- especially when it comes to boundaries & "rules of engagement".

I would be especially careful when you're involving someone who is a "friend" to either one of you... they are already involved in your life and as such - will be brought very intimately into both of your lives.

If it's good... will your husband seek this out again? Will your husband seek out a sexual experience with just his friend at a later date? Will you seek this out again? How closely do you want to bring this person into you life??

If it's bad... how will this affect your husband's relationship with that friend?

Some of the best advice I can give in relation to this would be... role-play it with just the two of y'all ... talk about what you'd like to do & how you'd interact with the third. Another possibility would be to bring in a stranger that neither you nor your husband have interaction in your lives with on a "normal" basis... a stranger from a bar... someone you meet while on vacation... etc -- that way, you both can walk away from that scenario with a complete & clean break.

Oh - and, of course... make sure EVERYONE practices safe-sex during this interaction.

hey, i just wanted to thank everyone who responded. We did it and it went wonderfully, I am so impressed with each individuals willingness to be frank and respectful. my husband and have been even closer since, our honesty in dialouge has increased and we cant wait to try it again. We treated as something holy and that is what we got from it. Plus some super hot lovin.

Congratulations on your fulfilling of a wonderful fantasy. If I may add, untill you are both comfortable with this situation and the newness wheres off, be carefull of who you allow to enter this holliest of sensual places. Try not to jump in with a friend of either of yours or even a mutual friend. It can cause problems. Good luck, Pete

The poly relationship between my wife and our girlfriend lasted several years until she (the girlfriend) found and fell in love with her now husband. She is still a large part of our life and always will be. The key to all of it is completely open communication between ALL parties involved and being able to accept each others viewpoints and feelings and work together to make things work. If it is truly a poly relationship you seek then all parties need to be on the same page and equally invested both physically, mentally and emotionally.