i need someone i can talk to about open relationships. a lil brief comment: i have been asking about this and i keep getting people who never even done an open relationship, tells me i just need to fuck around (which i dont), cheating, and all that other garbage i dont care to hear when it comes to relationship advice.

anyway, i am a bisexual woman and no i havent been with a woman. no, i am not bicurious. ive always liked girls since i was 10 yrs old, i do remember checking out girls secretly but didnt know what the feelings were. so, as i got older, i started checking out girls more often than boys even in high school. for the record, i am not interested in women for the sex, 3sums, or quickies. i’m interested in women to have a normal relationship, why is that such a problem for people when i tell them that?

i don’t use my sexuality as an excuse to get laid or get a bf. i met my bf in 05, i used my brain when i met him. he saw my myspace profile and asked about my sexuality even though it does say bisexual and i still told him about it anyway. he asked, i gave him answers and i never twisted anything about my sexuality just to make up a story. he has no interest in having a 3sum with me and another woman. my bf doesn’t want to be part of my relationships with women and i make that clear. i was trying to meet girls b4 i even met him, so ppl make me feel like it’s my fault for not meeting a woman much quicker! he's very supportive of my sexuality.

with most of the past advice ive gotten about this, all i got was dumb ignorant, never been there done that kind of advice. i’m not being rude, i just don’t like taking advice where ppl havent experienced something in their life. he doesn’t want to take a break while i explore my sexuality, my bf wants to do this together. also, ppl have told me that i should take a break so i can explore on my own. he trusts me a lot. we have talked about an open relationship like polyamory. we have talked about it a lot, and we still need to talk more about it.

someone told me i should speak to a therapist, i dont need to speak to a professional about this. 99% of counselors/therapists don’t even know anything about humans to begin with nor do they know anything about relationships when most of them won’t counsel people on open relationships, polyamory, or lgbt. i always get my advice from people who actually experienced something in their life and went through it.

my question is with open relationships, what am i doing wrong when it comes to finding a girl to meet? on online dating sites, i try to make my ads specific as i can, but others felt i wasn’t being upfront when i was. i dont know what else i could say and i dont like being accused of lying when it’s most ppl’s fault for not taking the time to ask me questions, it’s just more assumptions than intelligence. if anyone has any advice or suggestions, please let me know nicely! :)