i'm not sure why dr. gail's opinion is offered as some kind of absolute, as if "expertise" means anything in the ever-changing dynamic of relationship.

i agree, the 2 women show some bisexual tendencies, but if true, then trying to stop that because they made a monogamous promise before they realized this sortof flies in the face of who they truly are. how's that gonna work, exactly? which do you suppose is more compelling, a genetic preference or a verbal agreement based on romantic concepts of how it "should" be done?

bottom line, anything might be "disastrous" for a relationship....but nothing, even a 3some, has to be, so long as the lines of communication and care remain open and connected.

A generalized statement, to be sure.
Three (or a triad) can be successful both in bed (i.e., a physical connection) as well as in a relationship (romantic/emotional connection). It's tricky and true doesn't always work... doesn't more often than not... but it is possible. I have witnessed it myself.

a very close friend who is in a triad of life partners had this to say:
"Two's company, three's politics".

Sure three in a bed can be fun and/or disastrous but there is no way to make blanket statements.

We've had a third in our primary relationship like four times and after 38 years, no disasters yet :)

Hugs,

Rig Daddy

Depends on the three people, in my experience...

Depends on the people involved and they "type" of relationship. It takes a lot of emotional maturity, communication and self awareness from all people in the situation to have it work out without somebody (if not all) getting hurt. I don't think threesomes are something that many relationships can deal with.