http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674?format=rss Tribe.net. Local Connections http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#231a992d-4eaa-4df8-8b0b-38d346fb9507 TOTALLY agreed! It is tough and only some people can get it to work and then maybe even only some of the time. BUT if it works it is a beautiful thing. (We just bought a king size bed to help, even with those times we get four in the bed. We're really most often three but we each have another lover. Like six is way to many, LOL, but one of our lovers might join once in a while or....) Wed, 01 Oct 2008 21:56:45 GMT http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#231a992d-4eaa-4df8-8b0b-38d346fb9507 Rig 2008-10-01T21:56:45Z http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#bc38bc79-20c3-401e-b408-a8b3a43a52a0 Depends on the people involved and they "type" of relationship. It takes a lot of emotional maturity, communication and self awareness from all people in the situation to have it work out without somebody (if not all) getting hurt. I don't think threesomes are something that many relationships can deal with. Sun, 28 Sep 2008 07:31:48 GMT http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#bc38bc79-20c3-401e-b408-a8b3a43a52a0 pyrrhuloxia 2008-09-28T07:31:48Z http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#cc4584af-d789-4b11-ac3a-efc58f39e456 Depends on the three people, in my experience... Sun, 24 Aug 2008 21:48:53 GMT http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#cc4584af-d789-4b11-ac3a-efc58f39e456 Spartca 2008-08-24T21:48:53Z http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#b9a0e9bc-7e4e-4eb9-bc15-7a883c8948cd I would say the first time the two women had an "affair" it was exploration, but once the husband made his feelings clear then it doesn't really matter weather it is a woman-woman, woman-man, or any other combination of relationship . It is the part where she promises to end the affair and doesn't that is dishonest, no way around it, and dishonesty is more disastrous than any threesome in or out of bed. Really if she couldn't stay away from her new love she should make that clear so he could decide if that was a relationship he would be comfortable in. Wed, 20 Aug 2008 20:59:47 GMT http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#b9a0e9bc-7e4e-4eb9-bc15-7a883c8948cd AndyMan Swerving 2008-08-20T20:59:47Z http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#9706de0c-ca3f-4092-a401-991a85ee9723 a very close friend who is in a triad of life partners had this to say: "Two's company, three's politics". Sure three in a bed can be fun and/or disastrous but there is no way to make blanket statements. We've had a third in our primary relationship like four times and after 38 years, no disasters yet :) Hugs, Rig Daddy Mon, 18 Aug 2008 19:56:14 GMT http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#9706de0c-ca3f-4092-a401-991a85ee9723 Rig 2008-08-18T19:56:14Z http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#efde2b38-bf2d-4959-b253-2be7afed6766 A generalized statement, to be sure. Three (or a triad) can be successful both in bed (i.e., a physical connection) as well as in a relationship (romantic/emotional connection). It's tricky and true doesn't always work... doesn't more often than not... but it is possible. I have witnessed it myself. Mon, 18 Aug 2008 04:20:45 GMT http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#efde2b38-bf2d-4959-b253-2be7afed6766 ReachOut 2008-08-18T04:20:45Z http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#5ff222e0-802b-4340-8434-97b740f119af i'm not sure why dr. gail's opinion is offered as some kind of absolute, as if "expertise" means anything in the ever-changing dynamic of relationship. i agree, the 2 women show some bisexual tendencies, but if true, then trying to stop that because they made a monogamous promise before they realized this sortof flies in the face of who they truly are. how's that gonna work, exactly? which do you suppose is more compelling, a genetic preference or a verbal agreement based on romantic concepts of how it "should" be done? bottom line, anything might be "disastrous" for a relationship....but nothing, even a 3some, has to be, so long as the lines of communication and care remain open and connected. Thu, 14 Aug 2008 23:18:13 GMT http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#5ff222e0-802b-4340-8434-97b740f119af sulevay 2008-08-14T23:18:13Z http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#87f824ad-40dd-47ba-b79d-983885834e20 A threesome can be exciting — but also disastrous for a relationship http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/26059879/ Thu, 14 Aug 2008 22:42:01 GMT http://fluidrelationships.tribe.net/thread/be8a3702-b457-428c-a3bd-3d5243029674#87f824ad-40dd-47ba-b79d-983885834e20 Alan 2008-08-14T22:42:01Z