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HONOR THE WOMEN IN YOUR POLY POD by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. Here's one of the ways we play with our group of intimate lovers. We suggest you try it with yours. PolyWannabes, create group, rehearse. Let us know how your Honor the Goddess group goes. Give yourself an evening for each woman, or a whole day to do each woman in your lovegroup. Then let us on this site share our results and develop love rituals from our collective sharing. In a beautiful, peaceful, private space, gather the women in your poly pod. Ask one woman to volunteer as the first focus of this pattern. Each woman takes a turn as the group's focus. PREPARE YOURSELF AND THE SPACE FOR WOMAN WORSHIP Givers, clean your nails. Brush your teeth afresh. If you're male and clean-shaven, shave again; if you've a beard, shampoo it. Dress to please the Receiver. Find food, drink, flowers and music she'll like. Arrange the room to delight and relax her. Create a large, padded lovenest. Place water, towels, massage oil and internal lubricant next to the bed. Invite her to bathe while you disconnect phones and adjust the lighting and music. When she returns from the bath, each of you meet her gaze. Make eye- contact with her as you adore her together. Each of you say, in your own words--but poetic ones,"I appreciate this opportunity to please and replenish you. "May we undress you and see your body?" As you do, laud her looks aloud. Then all of you disrobe too. DEDICATE TOUCH TO PERSONAL AND UNIVERSAL HEALING Invite her to lie down. Touch your right palms to her heart and put her right hand on your heart. Rest your left hands on the back of her right and tell her to put her left on the hands you rest on her heart. Look into her left eye. Tell her, in your own words, "We delight in serving you. We love relating this intimately. May our adoration heal hurts we caused you. May our hearts unite. Come dance with us, your devotees. Dear Shakti, dance at the Shrine of the Yoni Nadi. There, together, we transcend our separate self-senses and join the divine dance of the cosmos." "What words, "ask her, "have you to consecrate the worship we offer your Inner Aphrodite, your loving, sensual, sexual self.? *** [Give her time to answer.] MASSAGE MADONNA Then say, "May we massage you?" As she stretches out on her belly, tug her toes. Rub her soles and the backs of each leg. Do her fingers, palms, arms. Then massage her back and her bottom. Help her turn over. Dance your fingers over the tops of her feet and hands, the front of her arms and legs. Brush her labia and nipples as you glide your hands over her torso. Massage her face and head. Stroke and knead the muscles inside the leg; Kneed the inside of her legs, where they insert into her pelvis. Press your fingers deep into the muscles above her pubic bone. GET CONSENT TO TOUCH HER TEMPLE Ask her to designate one of you to touch her Love Temple. CONNECT ALL HER CHAKRAS WITH SACRED SECTOR ENERGY All present lay hands on her. The person she chooses, her Giver, rests their left hand on her HEART. Giver, hold your right hand over her yoni. Imagine you send her a beam of love from your eyes into her left eye. Breathe together three times; then settle your hand on her mons. Tell her, "I love you. Feel our hearts connect and energy vibrate between us. "I send you love as I breathe out; breathe it in, inhale my love." The rest of the group breathes with the Giver and Receiver. Exhale, then draw your navel back toward your spine and up. Tighten your pubococcygeal and anal sphincter muscles. Imagine, Giver, you send energy up your spine from your tailbone, through your heart and out your right hand into her yoni. When you inhale, feel the energy you have sent her move through her heart into your left hand. Take at least three breaths where you send this circuit of energy. Keep your right hand on her yoni, your eyes on hers. Move your left hand to her CROWN. Tell her you invite the Goddess of Love to enter her crown and move through her central channel to her yoni-shrine. Breathe together three times. Move your left hand to her BROW, THROAT, BELLY and BASE chakras. For each, take three breaths. Eye-gaze and imagine you connect with her brow, throat, heart (again), then belly, perineal and sexual chakras. Conclude these chakra meditations (mudras) with your left hand again on her heart. STROKE HER SACRED SECTOR Tell your Receiver, "Relax on your back, Sweetheart. Breathe deeply. "Let each of us gaze into your eyes. If you like, I'll massage, then kiss your genital drapes and the valence over your pearl. If she says consents, say, "Make sounds and direct us with words; give us feedback while I lick and stroke." Stroke her outer labia. Roll her clitoral hood around the clitoral crown; but don't stimulate the crown yet. When her outer vaginal lips swell, revealing the inner lips, trace circles, spirals, horizonals, verticals, diagonals, and figure-eights on them with your fingers. Alternate long, short, inventive, sensitive and playful strokes. Tap, knead and pinch the hood and labia ten or fifteen minutes. When the inner labia also become quite swollen with blood, say, "Would you like me to polish your pearl?" (pearl = clitoral crown). If yes, honor her yoni with your mouth and tongue. Blow on her genitals. Plant baby kisses on her clitoris. Twill your tongue round the crown and lick her labia. Lap into her yoni as you continue gazing into her eyes. Salivate generously; lubricate the orifice. After twenty to thirty minutes honoring her yoni, say, "I'd like to enter your sacred cave with this (right ring) finger." If she agrees, lick your finger so it's quite moist (or use an internal lubricant like Probe or neem oil). Place the tip of your ring finger pad just inside her vaginal opening. Say, "Pull my finger in." When you feel her vaginal muscles pulsing on your finger, let her pull your finger into her cave. Curl your finger pad inside her yoni toward her navel then back toward her inner legs, so it rests on her sacred sector. Breathe together and keep your hand still for ten deep breaths while you imagine that your finger reaches inside her to her heart. Begin a light "come here" motion with your ring finger; let the pad of your finger caress the tissue that covers the sacred sector. Trace, in thirty to forty strokes, the inner surface of the top and upper front of her cave from cervix toward the top of her cave's opening. Then, for forty strokes or so, turn your wrist from side to side. Trace a crescent over the sacred sector with your finger pad. Sweep (turn your wrist from up to down) the left half of her cave. Skim the front of your right ring finger from the cave roof to its floor and outside door. Remove your right ring finger and insert your left ring finger inside her yoni. With your left ring finger, stroke the right half of the yoni roof. After a few minutes, change your position to ease your back and neck. Withdraw your left ring finger from her cave, and put your right ring finger back in. Rub, tap, and touch all over inside her cave. Stroke different levels of pressure, depths, speeds and rhythms. Trace the throbbing veins and, deeper, arteries. Press to the bone in each part of her cave. After fifteen minutes, say, "Would you like one of us to pet you with two fingers inside?" If she consents, curl the underside of your right middle and ring fingers together along the roof-beam of her yoni. Move your fingers down the transom over the door and out the yoni, with a "come here" motion. Then focus your fingers inside her on her sacred sector. You can feel it through the inner vaginal wall, between the wall and the pubic bone, above the orifice. The sector feels like a bean-sized lump that may grow to silver-dollar size as you stroke it. Initially, when her sector's stimulated, she may think (though she's just emptied her bladder she needs to urinate. Let her try to do so until no urine comes out. Unite your fingers through her lower abdomen. Press your left hand down on her lower belly just above the pubic bone. Feel her spot swell between these fingers on her abdomen and those in her vagina. If you find menstrual blood on your fingers, let her know you treasure this intimacy. Dab some on each of your chests and thank her. The Receiver may enjoy all the touching. Some Receivers feel indifferent to sacred sector massage at first. Most women, however, savor some sacred spot stroking. Remember your Receiver's pleasure points. If you try this exercise, or something like it, please share on this site what you tried and how it turned out. Learn lots more at our POLYAMORY CONFERENCE, September 12-14 Harbin Hot Springs CA. Workshops and presentations by Drs. Gary Schubach, Steven Vouge, Anistas Harris, Dave Doleshal, Harold (Haridas)Kornylak, Celeste Hirshman, and Sasha Lessin, as well as Janet Kira Lessin, Veronica Monet, Taber Shadburne, Gabriella Cordover, Aisha Kassaoun, Paul Glassco, Danielle Harel, Kirsten Rose, David Spero, Robert Allen, Amber Seitz, Carolina Fleishman, Paul Planodon and even more tba. www.worldpolyamoryassociation.com, worldpolyamory@aol.com 808 244- 4103

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